Day 30

孩子需要錢的時候,做為父母,你是給還是不給?

這其實也相當考驗父母的智慧。

我父母一早説的很清楚,會供養我到大學畢業,之後,我應該有足夠的能力去養活自己了,所以我也是這麼和我家孩子説。

有人説太仁慈,18歲已完全可以獨立,養活自己不是問題;也有人說太殘忍,如果孩子有意願唸研究所,就應該趁他們年輕,譲他們繼續唸。

我想或許也沒有一個標準

答案,畢竟每個孩子,每個家庭的狀況都不一樣,不過,如果從結果看回來,或許可以找到一個屬於每個孩子的答案。

從父母的角度,如果給,可以解決孩子根本的問題,而問題也不再發生,那就給吧;如果給,只是解決一時的問題,而這問題只是會重複的發生,那這樣的給,肯定有問題。

從孩子的角度,如果這錢是父母一輩子辛苦積累的養老金,不要輕易開口,這是父母用他們的生命換來的,他們已經給我們最寶貴的資產-生命,是我們自己要想辦法好好使用我們的生命,用我們的生命去賺取自己的人生,讓父母可以安心養老;就算父母有超過他們這輩子可以享用的財富,也要明白那不是理所當然,時時惜福,心存感激吧!

很感謝我父母當初不輕易出手,讓我不得不想辦法讓自己有用,也懂得量力而為,花錢花在刀口上,剛來香港,曾過著幾個月,毎天只有五塊港幣可以花在食物上的日子。

也很感謝父母在剛結婚時,給我頭期款買房子(說是用借的,但也從沒讓我還,只付利息),讓我可以有個安定的家。

所以給還是不給?如果給,怎麼給?可能還是沒有標準答案,但肯定要祝福孩子可以從給或不給中,得到智慧,明白給或不給到底要教會他們什麼,因為這樣的給或不給,其實最終還是一種給,是給了他們無形的財富,可能是能力,可能是智慧,而且是他們畢生都可享用的財富。

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